The Rocco Effect

Losers have goals. Winners have systems. ―  Scott Adams     The pursuit of a goal gives you a purpose and the growth makes you feel great.  The completion of a goal makes you feel awesome, but it never lasts long and before long your left lost, without purpose, which leads to depression, a state which will likely destroy most of your progress you made pursuing the goal. How do we avoid this lonely state, but still continue to grow and make progress?  By thinking in systems, instead of goals.  A goal is a target we work towards hitting, a system is the daily process of trying to get better.  A goal may be to run a marathon in X amount of time.  A system would be to run daily, pushing yourself a little further each day/  It doesn't end once you hit your target as a new target is made each day, continuing growth and the positive feelings attached to that. Goal - Pass an exam    System - Learn something new each day Goal - Lost 5 stone...

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  A song about all the beautiful sights of Christmas Time.

  Me and Brian where walking the streets, getting wasted, but also very tired, until we spotted a wheelchair.

  A story of the time i appeared on a Japanese Quiz show.

  I meet a young girl, at a nightclub, who was dancing on her own.

  An old man sails out to sea, but he finds himself in danger after a wave tips him overboard.

  I visit Glasgow City Center and meet a group of very fine young gentlemen. 

The comfort of having a friend may be taken away, but not that of having had one – Seneca When the time comes and our loved ones part from us, what would be the best state for us to be in?  I believe it to be a state in which we have no regrets.  A state where we are proud of how much meaning we gave to their lives and how much they gave back.  A state in which we believe they smiled, thinking of our time together as they passed.  So how do we make that goal more likely?   We pause before we speak and act and ask ourselves 'Will I regret saying/doing this?'.  We plan and attend events that will create memories.  We take in as much as we can when we are with loved ones, the sights, sounds, smells ect.  We make sure that regardless of what happened, you both leave every situation happy.  People don't remember specifics, but they do remember how you made them feel, make them feel great. Task 1. Who's deaths would have the biggest impact on ...

We all know, Social Media is addicting.  Likes, comments and shares are all designed to give us a high. What are we posting in order to seek those highs?  Are we sharing our amazing lives?  Are we sharing knowledge to help others?  Are we sharing humor? or are we sharing reasons why we're week, reasons our lives suck, reasons why others should accept our weakness and depressing lives?  All of these exist.  Life is a mixture of awesome and crap, it's the same for everyone.  But, if your smart you'd seek out living a more awesome life, compared to a more crap life. If we post crap, we'll seek a life of more crap, in order to post more.  The same is true for those who live awesome lives.  Just compare the lives of the people who share these aspects of their lives.  To conclude, watch what you post and share.  This is your currency for your social media high.  And like  addict, you'll seek out more in order for that high....

 

 

 195. Is your house your home? 196. What posters/photos could be added to make it more homely? 197. What candles/stents make a room feel more homely? 198. What background audio would fit each room? 199. What haven't I used in the last year? 200. Would someone else get more use out of them? 201. What could I do with the extra space? 202. Is each area suited for their task? 203. What 1 thing can I buy to help improve each room? 204. How has your home changed in the last year? 205. Where would you love to live? 206. What type of environment brings you joy and happiness? 207. What's stopping you from moving to a better environment? 208. What can you do to improve your current environment? 209. What can I do, to help others in my community? 210. What makes my home great? 211. How do I feel before and after tidying? 212. What three places are you happiest? Why? 213. If you had the money, what would your dream house look like? 214. What would each room look like? ...

“It is not death that a man should fear, but rather he should fear never beginning to live.” —Marcus Aurelius  The biggest regret one can face is regretting their life.  We don't want to look back on our lives only to see disappointment and missed opportunities. If we reflect on our pasts we can all find some regrets, but would they have happened if we had reflected on our deaths?  Maybe the same actions would have took place, but with the new outlook we would see them as a growth opportunity, rather than a regret.  Maybe we'd stick to our values and walk away proud.  If we remind ourselves that one day we will be looking back on everything, with no more time to make amends, we will be much more satisfied with the choices we make. Task 1. Reflect on your past regrets.  What would you say in order to prevent them?  If you wouldn't prevent them are they really regrets? 2. Reflect on your death.  Did you live a good life?  Do you need to make am...

155. What would you learn, if you knew you would succeed at it? 156. What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail? 157. What advice would you give to someone in a similar situation as yourself? 158. What has been your biggest life lesson in the last year? 159. What is your 5 year plan? 160. How can you get there in 1 year? 161. What's stopping you spending more time on your personal growth? 162. What 5 qualities are you most proud of having? 163. How have you grown in the last year? 164. What have you learned in the last week? 165. What awesome things are you working on? 166. What makes it awesome? 167. What are your values? 168. How can you share what you have learned? 169. What do I need to stop doing? 170. What daily tasks am I doing in order to grow? 171. What books have I read this year? 172. What have I learned from them? 173. How have I used these lessons to benefit my life? 174. What books am I looking forward to reading in the future? 175. What p...

Don't Judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds that you plant. - Robert Louis Stevenson Where we're going is more important than where we are.  Where we're going determines everything, our thoughts, actions and our mood.  When life's going to hell we think negatively, act in accordance, and feel rubbish.  When things are getting better we think clearly, our actions keep pushing us forward and we feel awesome. We unconsciously know this.  We feel, think and act differently without realizing why, only to look back later, connect the dots and see that life was moving in the wrong direction.  To become more conscious visualize the best and the worst possible futures.  If you notice yourself feeling, acting or thinking negatively ask if you're moving towards the best or worst future, then make the changes needed to get back onto the right path. Task 1. Spend 10 minutes visualizing your best and worst futures 2. Where are your current actions...

 134. If you had all the time/money, what would you do with your life? 135. What's stopping you from spending more time doing what you love? 136. What can you start doing to get even more out of the time spent doing what you love? 137. What three hobbies related quotes mean the most to you? Why? 138. How can I help others, who love the same things I do? 139. How can I start making money from one of my hobbies? 140. What problems exist, that I can solve? 141. How do I show my appreciation for my hobbies? 142. What new hobbies would help benefit my life? 143. What possessions mean most to you? Why? 144. What music makes you feel your best? 145. What songs mean the most to you? Why? 146. What can I stop doing so that I can spend more time doing what I love? 147. Why did you start your hobbies? 148. Did you love your hobbies when you first started? 149. How did you grow a love for them? 150. What unnecessary things am I doing? 151. How will I make amends to any wrong...

 

 

 101. What does a good time with my partner look like? 102. If you knew they'd say yes, who would you spend the rest of your life with? 103. What does your dream life, with your partner, look like? 104. What's stopping you taking the next step in your love life? 105. What values do you look for in a partner? 106. What can you start doing to show more love to your partner? 107. How have I grown from my failures in love? 108. Where are my current actions leading me in love? 109. What do I do to ensure my partner is living the best life I can provide? 110. If I where to die tonight, how would my partner remember me? 111. How do I want them to remember me? 112. What actions must I take, to ensure they remember me, the way I want them to? 113. How can I make them want to date me? 114. What qualities make me attractive? 115. How well do I show off my qualities? 116. What qualities should I work on to become even more attractive? 117. I'm I the type of person, the t...

 

 

 

 

60. What does a good time with my friends look like? 61. What does a good time with my family look like? 62. What's a bigger loss 90% of your savings or a family/friend? 63. Do your actions, show you really believe this? 64. Who loves you? 65. Why do they love you? 66. What's stopping you spending more time with your friends/family? 67. How will I make amends for my mistakes? 68. What values do you look for in friends? 69. What can you start doing to bring more meaning and joy to your friends and family? 70. If I where to die tonight, how would my friends and family remember me? 71. How do I want them to remember me? 72. What actions must I take, to ensure they remember me, the way I want them to? 73. Pick someone you care about. What would life be like if they died tonight? 74. What would you miss most? 75. Since they're not dead, how will you honor the extra time you've been blessed with them? 76. What actions do I need to stop doing that are slowly p...

 44. How can I start solving the biggest problems related to my job? 45. What next step can I take to running my own bushiness? 46. What first impression do I give off to customers? 47. How can I build up a loyal following? 48. How can I help improve the lives of my followers? 49. How can I make $1 today? 50. How can I make more money? 51. Where can I cut costs? 52. What problems can I make money from solving? 53. What small steps lead to my goal? 54. What problems are currently bothering me? 55. What problems can I solve today? 56. Who else would benefit if I solved these problems? 57. How can I build an audience or money around solving this problem? 58. Pick any object. What are 10 ways it could be made better? 59. How could I implement these changes to make a new product?

The questions we ask determines the answers we get.  Here's a list of 'Better Questions' around the topic of work.   Questions  1. What have I learnt from my failures?  2. Where have I done wrong and how can I make amends? 3.What skills am I improving at work?  4. What would I need to do to be ok with losing this job?  5. What does a good day at work look like?  6. What Job would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?  7. What job are my current actions leading me to?  8. What's stopping you from performing your best work?  9. What brings meaning and joy to your job?  10. What can you start doing to bring happiness to the workplace?  11. Which of my actions are holding me back?  12. How can I make others look good?  13. How do I make myself irreplaceable?  14. Why do I deserve a pay rise/promotion?  15. What can I start doing, to make my job role something to be proud of?  16. How does my job affect...

Remember, it is not enough to be hit or insulted to be harmed, you must believe that you are being harmed. If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation. Which is why it is essential that we not respond impulsively to impressions; take a moment before reacting, and you will find it easier to maintain control. - Epictetus  Words can be as powerful as a slap in the face, if we let them. If an idiot said 'Pigs can fly' we'd dismiss it, so why do we trust their judgement on us?  Maybe we're not upset at their judgement, but are upset at our own judgment of ourselves.  Do beautiful people feel insulted when called ugly? Smart people when their called idiots? Healthy when their called fat? No, the insult only hurts when we see ourselves in the same light.  If you want to be immune, be awesome, do your best and only repeat good thoughts about yourself.  You know yourself better than anyone, it's the one field where you're ...