Bonus - What is the desired outcome?

To conquer frustration, one must remain intensely focused on the outcome, not the obstacles. - T.F. Hodge

We often ignore the most important aspect when we begin to argue. We focus too much on building our own egos and destroying all egos on the opposing side. This means the important outcome doesn't get done, or it does but spitefully and to the minimum requirements. You also lose friends as no one wants to be around someone who destroys their ego.

If you find yourself arguing, take a step back, pause and ask yourself 'what is the desired outcome?'. Put your focus on working together to achieve that.

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