The Rocco Effect

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be. Be one - Marcus Aurelius  We don't have angels and devils on our shoulders, but we all know right from wrong.  We get a gut feeling before decisions.  Our subconscious has done all the hard calculations for us. If we listen to that, we will avoid a lot of future heartache.  Our values determine what we see as good/bad.  We may hold telling the truth high, but if we view loyalty as higher, we should choose loyalty over truth.  Both options may lead to bad outcomes, but outcomes are out of our control.  We can sway the odds to be more in our favor, but we don't have full control over every outcome.  Be good and think right, the rest doesn't matter. Task 1. How did you feel after doing what you knew was right? 2. Compare that to how you felt after doing wrong. 3. What is the right action for you now? 4. What's the smallest step you can take towards this action?   5. Do it

 

 

 

 

I alone cannot change the world, but I can cast a stone across the water to create many ripples - Mother Teressa When we feel our work is meaningless, we feel meaningless.  When we feel our work is important, we feel important. Meaning means even on bad days, you can find pride in what you're doing. The meaning I took from previous my jobs Security - I was protecting people.  I made sure others could enjoy their nights.  I learned how to defuse and prevent fights.  Retail - I learned the importance of making sure customers leave happy.  I learned sales techniques. I helped make it easier for people to get what they needed. Comics - I don't get paid for this so these are all about meaning.  I solidify my knowledge when simplifying lessons for the comics. I help others live happier lives.  1 provide a framework to help others grow.  Task 1. What skills/knowledge have you gained whilst at your job? 2. How does your role impact others? 3. What could you do to gain more meaning from

 

  A joke about coffee shops.

If someone is doing something a lot we call it a habit. If bully's, bully almost daily, they have a bad habit. Habits continue because we feel a boost in happiness afterward. Chances are they feel a small boost from the victims reaction. In order to stop the bullying, stop that boost. A punch to the face produces the opposite boost from what they where after. Making them look foolish gives the opposite effect. But treating them with kindness. That's neutral or positive. As a result they're much more likely to continue. Stop the habit by giving them bad outcomes. Do you agree? Are there other ways you would deal with bullying?