The Rocco Effect

When we complain we put our focus on what's wrong. If you're like most people, you focus on the fact that your helpless and it's up to the world to solve these problems for you. All your doing is telling yourself 'I'm weak and the world is a scary dangerous and evil place' how do you think that mentally will affect your life? Stop now, don't allow yourself to complain for a week. You'll be amazed at how much happier and calmer you feel. Task 1. Don't complain for a week 2. If you need to complain post what you are doing to combat it 3. Notice how quickly your life improves Video

When we focus on everything that needs to get done we often burn ourselves out, without doing anything.  Big tasks are draining, but small daily tasks, they're easy.  Break down your goals into small tasks, you can do daily without thinking twice about them. Task 1.Write down what needs done. 2. Write down what small daily tasks you can do, that will eventually lead to the completion of your goals 3. Start working on your daily tasks. Video

Can't emphasis this enough. Focus is the key to overcoming these mental problems. Don't let them win. If negative thoughts creep into your head tell them to 'Fuck off!' with as much emotion and power as possible then replace it with the exact opposite e.g 'i suck ' changes to' I'm bloody amazing '. Give it a go. It'll be tough but you'll start noticing a positive change in a few days. After weeks and months you'll be amazed at how much better you feel on a day to day basis. Task 1. Write down your negative thoughts 2. Change them to be positive. 3. Read the positive thoughts every morning and before you go to sleep. Video

Stop asking yourself 'why is my life so bad?', 'Why does no one like me?' 'Why do I fail at everything?' and focusing on all the crap, Instead ask yourself 'How can I make my life better?' 'What can I do to be more attractive?' 'What are some smaller tasks I can easily win at?' these types of questions will allow you to think of solutions.  Focusing on what you can do to improve and actively moving towards a better future (even if it's slow) will lead to a much happier and more meaningful life. Try it for a few days and notice how you feel after answering these questions.  

Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough - Oprah Winfrey One of my favorite Ted talks if you're depressed or wanting to avoid depression it's worth checking out. Task - check out his website ( http://1000awesomethings.com ) Then write your own list of things you are grateful for (Even if it's just 1 thing each day). Add to the list, or just read it every morning to make sure you start the day in the right state of mind. The idea is to start to notice just how much you have to be grateful for, If your grateful it's a lot harder to be depressed. If you can't appreciate what you have you'll never be happy so learn how to appreciate all you have.